My Sisters Closet

What Failure Taught Me (And Why I’m Not Afraid of It Anymore)

Failure isn’t something we usually celebrate—but maybe we should.
In this episode, I’m sharing one of the most humbling moments of my life: planning an event that almost no one attended. At the time, I thought it meant I wasn’t capable. Looking back, I realize it became one of the experiences that taught me the most.
We talk about giving ourselves grace, learning from mistakes, overcoming the fear of trying again, and why success isn’t built without failure first.
If you’ve ever felt embarrassed, discouraged, or like you weren’t enough because something didn’t work out, this conversation is for you.
💜 I’d love to hear from you:
What’s one failure that taught you something you’ll never forget? Leave a comment below or send me a DM.
If this episode encouraged you, don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs the reminder that failure isn’t the end—it’s often the beginning.
 
Chapters
00:00 – A recent failure inspired this episode
01:20 – Why failure feels so personal
02:00 – The event that almost no one attended
05:40 – What I believed afterward
06:40 – Choosing to try again
08:00 – Are you playing it too safe?
09:45 – Divorce, expectations, and redefining failure
12:00 – Learning to give yourself grace
14:30 – The danger of assumptions
16:00 – Why this might be my winning season
17:00 – What failure is teaching me now
 
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When Life Starts Making Sense Again

This one is short and sweet. I stopped by the closet to share something that felt too good not to say out loud. Things are starting to connect, my health, my vision, my creative direction, and it feels like I can finally see the roadmap. I also got into something that genuinely blew my mind from 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think about how we assume everyone sees the world the way we do, and how that is just simply not true. Come sit with me for a few minutes. It felt like a good day and I wanted to share it with you.
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**Show Notes:**
In this episode I talk about:• What it feels like when the dots finally start connecting• Health updates and feeling clearer mentally• How I visualize information in my mind like a connected map• The naive belief phenomenon from 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think• Why your perspective is never the only perspective
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Slowing Down to Speed Up

This is episode marks six months of My Sister’s Closet, and I wanted to be honest with you about where I’m at. I’m talking about something called “giver burnout,” a term I came across on Reddit, and asking myself the hard question, am I actually living the intentional life I keep talking about, or just talking about it? I share why I’m stepping away from the podcast for the month of July, not because I’m done, but because I want to actually go live the things I’ve been teaching. I’ll be back in August with more, including the start of a brand new series, and a conversation that’s going to include the men in our lives too, because this was never just about sisterhood. It’s about all of us.
Show Notes:
In this episode I talk about: • Six months of My Sister’s Closet and what I’ve learned • What “giver burnout” is and why I related to it • Asking myself if I actually practice what I preach • Measuring a good life by presence, not production • Why I’m taking a Christmas in July break for the month of July • What’s coming in August, including a series on what sisterhood is not and conversations that include the men in our lives
Taking July to rest, live, and process. Back in August. 💜
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The Other Side of Adoption

Adoption isn’t always the fairy tale we make it out to be. In this episode I’m closing out the adoption conversation – for now – by getting honest about the parts people don’t talk about. The kids who get returned. The homes that are worse than where they came from. The 15,000 children who age out of foster care every year with no family, no home, and nowhere to go.
 
I’m sharing some hard stats, a story that has stayed with me since high school, and what it really feels like to be pushed into a life you didn’t choose. This one is heavy but it needed to be said. And if you’ve lived any part of this story – as an adoptee, a foster kid, or someone who loves one – I see you.
 
💜 Resources mentioned: Second Shift Birmingham (secondshiftbirmingham.org)

Being Other: My Story on Adoption, Race, and Never Fitting the Mold

This week I’m going deeper into my adoption story, specifically what it felt like growing up biracial in a blended family where I never quite fit one box. I talk about being homeschooled, being a preacher’s kid, having a stutter, and constantly being asked “but who are your real parents.” I share some hard memories, including being asked to leave rooms so others could tell racist jokes, and a painful moment on a mission trip where I finally felt like I belonged. This episode is raw, it’s personal, and it’s about what it means to stay true to yourself even when you spend your whole life being told you don’t fit anywhere. Sisters, if you’ve ever felt like the chameleon in the room, this one’s for you.
Show Notes:
In this episode I talk about:• Growing up adopted, biracial, homeschooled, and a preacher’s kid• Being told “that’s not your real family” as a child• Switching between social groups just to feel like I belonged• A painful memory from church and from a mission trip• What my siblings taught me about never changing who I am to fit in• Why being “other” actually became a gift
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My Adoption Story

Hallie opens her closet — literally — and shares something she’s never fully talked about on the podcast before. Her adoption story.She was three months old when she joined the Hootin household, the fourth of what would eventually be eight kids — none of them biological siblings, none of them looking alike, all of them family. She talks about growing up biracial in a predominantly white Christian home, the questions strangers asked out loud, the disorienting moments of not fitting in anywhere, and why she’s always known she was different — and been okay with that.This one is warm, funny in places, and deeply personal.In this episode:— Being adopted at three months old and what her parents always told her— Growing up as the fourth of eight kids with every kind of background and story— The questions strangers asked — and still ask — about her real family— What it felt like to be other in every room she walked into— Her brother with fetal alcohol syndrome and what that meant for the family— The Cheetah Girls, sorority sisters, and what it means to be proud of where you came from— Why her dad’s words to the caseworker still mean everything to her

Silence is the Call for Help

Hallie came straight from Pilates with a 20-year friend and left with a reminder she needed to share. Her friend had gone quiet — not because things were fine, but because she didn’t want to be a burden. And Hallie had something to say about that.This episode is about what happens when we shut ourselves off from the people who love us, why silence isn’t protection, and what it actually means to show up for each other in sisterhood.She also gets personal about a tattoo on her arm, a traumatic season in college, and the friend who showed up for her then — and how she got to return the favor tonight.In this episode:— Why not sharing your struggles hurts the people around you too— The difference between burdening someone and trusting them— Share, hold, replenish — the three things Hallie came home thinking about— A story about a tattoo, a hard season, and a friendship that survived it— Why checking on your quiet friends matters more than you think

The Refreshing Period (A Follow Up)

A quick but important follow up. Hallie clarifies what the refreshing period actually means in practice — giving each other space to grow, room for misunderstandings to become understanding, and choosing to experience joy together instead of holding onto pain.
 
She also shares a personal story about learning something shocking about someone she considers a sister, and how they chose to move forward anyway.
 
Short, clarifying, and worth the listen. The full arc — react, reflect, repair, refresh — ends here.
 
Mentioned across the series:
— 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest
— The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

The Refreshing Period & What Sisterhood Really Means

After the reaction, the reflection, and the repair — what comes next? Hallie picks up right where she left off and finally gets to the part she didn't have time to cover: the refreshing period. What it actually looks like to start from a clean slate, give people space, and show up differently going forward.
 
She also gets personal about sisterhood — what it means to her as one of four adopted daughters in a family of eight siblings, and why the relationships she's fought hardest to keep are the ones that have shaped her most.
 
This one is tender. And it sticks the landing on the arc.
 
In this episode:
— What the refreshing period actually requires from you
— How repressed memories showed up mid-conversation and changed everything
— Why trauma doesn't just affect you — it affects everyone around you
— What sisterhood looks like when it's been tested and survived
— Forgive but don't forget — and why that's actually healthy
— Why you have to say the hard things out loud
— Sitting with people in pain vs. standing with them in joy
 
Mentioned: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

What's Actually Motivating You

If the first two episodes cracked something open, this one asks what you're going to do with it. Hallie digs into a chapter from 101 Essays about intrinsic motivation — what it means to be driven from the inside out instead of chasing external validation.
 
She gets personal about the gap between who she thought she'd become and what she's building now, and why it finally feels right.
 
In this episode:
— Intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation and why it matters
— The detour Hallie took from her original vision
— Why meaning is something you assign, not something you find
— A peek at the journaling and community app she's building
 
Mentioned: 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest
 
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